THE WAY #10

"Never correct anyone while you are still indignant about a fault committed. Wait until the next day, or even longer. And then, calmly, and with a purer intention, make your reprimand. You will gain more by one friendly word than by a three-hour quarrel. Control your temper."

This works for parents too. I remember a woman who was angry with her son. She had a brush in her hand and knew that she should drop the brush before speaking to her son. Parents don't always have the opportunity to wait a day or two before disciplining a child but it would be better to wait and miss the immediate opportunity and rectify your intention. Think: What offence did he commit?

THE WAY #9

"Say what you have just said, but in a different tone, without anger, and your argument will gain in strength and, above all, you won't offend God."


Did your mom ever tell you to count to ten? There is wisdom in those old ideas. For the love of God and neighbor we need to develop self control. We need to help our children develop self control. We don't need to return to an era of stuffiness, but letting it all hang out is not helping society.